Relationship Sessions

I offer process-oriented facilitation for relationships in a safe and playful environment and welcome couples from all sexual orientations. Whether your relationship needs regular support and maintenance, check-ins and periodic support, or more urgent crisis-oriented attention, I have many tools and skills to help you and your partner move more gracefully through the challenges you face. I strive to maintain a balanced, open, and non-judgmental atmosphere for both individuals and the couple as a unit. I do not enter into relationship difficulties with a viewpoint that it is better to “stay together” or “separate” but instead follow as closely as possible the true path for the relationship.

I assist couples with:

  • - Communicating their needs, desires, complaints, and feelings more easily and in a supportive environment.
  • - Fighting "cleaner" fights, learning how to take the other’s side, and how to better stand up for themselves without alienating their partner.
  • - Finding ways they can experience greater emotional intimacy and connection as well as revealing the intimacy that may already be present in the relationship.
  • - Exploring difficulties couples experience in their sexual lives, including but not limited to shyness to initiate sex, prior abuse and personal wounds around sex, or differences in sexual desire.
  • - Discussing parenting problems such as sharing parenting responsibilities, differing parenting styles, and joining two families together.
  • - Uncovering financial challenges: differences in spending habits, communication around money, and finding intimacy and connection amidst money "problems."
  • - Processing the after affects of affairs and other relationship crises.
  • - Supporting the unique challenges of same-sex couples, mixed-race couples, and other alternative relationships.

I also have extensive training in addressing subtle relationship experiences around moods, rank and power, gender differences, relationship roles, and the overarching direction or myth of a relationship.

"If you don't know the kind of person I am
and I don't know the kind of person you are
a pattern that others made may prevail in the world
and following the wrong god home we may miss our star."

- William Stafford